TheGoodFelo

When you can’t love your companion back ‘as much as’ they love you, what should you do? You would agree with me that love is not a thing you can always control or decide. Love is usually not created; it happens instead. This is why someone can love even your worst enemy. Since this is so, you cannot exactly make yourself love someone unless you genuinely do love the person. I believe that it could be easy to camouflage in 'action'; however, you cannot possibly fake an emotion. If you don’t feel it, you don’t feel it, period –it’ll rather just be sheer acting. This is one of the reasons a person may love someone who hurts them so badly, both physically and emotionally. Someone may find it hard to leave or end a toxic relationship. We may love someone who doesn’t even care about us. In other words, we may feel left behind. Consequently, and in a way to heal, we may now falsely affirm that we don’t care. We become hard and rigid as a means of helping ourselves to live on and

Distance vs Care, Time and Attention : Is distance really a serious challenge in relationships or has it been overly exaggerated? Let's be honest, the most important things anyone would usually require from their companions are ‘care, time and attention’. On the 27 of December last year, I stumbled on a picture quote by Jim Rhon that stated the truth that: ‘ One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of your attention. ’ The point of this quote became clear when I understood the picture in the background. There were a young boy and an old woman, laughing gently as they sat on a fallen tree trunk, apparently having a good discussion. It occurred to me that the boy must have made out some ‘time’ from his playtime to spend ‘time’ together with the old lady. Likewise, the woman must have had to leave her room where she could have been reclining or reading, just to spend some quality ‘time' with the young boy. 'Time' is being emphasized here because of i

This write-up is dedicated to Marvey, the awesome person who took the time to ask the question we'll address here. What if I can’t meet up to my companion’s standards? Introduction : Now, this is a serious question. Earlier, in a post last week Monday, I mentioned that since we get to grow up differently, no two persons end up having absolutely the same personalities. And so, each of us is entitled to having unique and personal variations. Nonetheless, it was established that we should try to make life easier for ourselves by endeavouring to improve and learn where necessary, especially when it's required in a companionship. Then, Marvey asked, 'What if I can't meet up to my companion's standards?' The Talk : The truth is, some people might have some innocuously high standards which they might have grown up with; hence, it can be understandably difficult to act otherwise. For instance, my mother is normally obsessed with a very exhausting manner of hygie

Stop expecting your companion to always see things your way . Seriously, people seem to forget that no two persons have absolutely the same personality without a measure of peculiarity. We grow up differently: different locations, family upbringing, acceptable lifestyles, personal preference, age-long habits and tendencies, life approaches and so forth. We can't exactly be the same no matter what. Each person is yet entitled to have their unique and personal variations. We are all expected to eventually shape our variations within a reasonable span of time, so as to live better lives and be better members of the global human community. Don't expect people to always suit your requirements. Everyone is entitled to be different in their own way. In other words, don't expect perfection from anyone. Perfection here refers to having no flaw in one's sight. Remember, we are not exactly angels, we are humans. It's quite funny, I guess, right? Well, this knowledge of our dif