Society and Human Rights: In The Light Of Who We Are -Self Love.

I love to use perfumes a lot, I am usually very generous with bathing myself with different fragrances. What a paradox! It could sound funny, but how appalling is it that we spend time cleaning our bodies every day like rituals, yet our minds and hearts may still reek of so much self-loathing/self-hatred.

Please, get my point, the issue isn't that we should not wash our bodies until we have learned to love ourselves. That will be a ridiculous thing to say. Moreover, how could we allow our hearts and minds to stink of shame and blame?
     The point is, whether you agree or not, 'The only person who is responsible to love you unreservedly is yourself.' You owe yourself all the self-love you deserve.

You cannot force any intelligible human being to love you the way you deserve. Or maybe, the problem is rather that many of us don't think we deserve to be loved, or that we worth anything at all. Maybe we should begin from there.
     I don't have to meet with you or know your experiences before I affirm that you deserve to be loved. It sounds like it's easier said, right? Most of the mistakes and disappointments that cause many individuals to literally hate themselves are from the past. No matter what they were or their consequences, you really have to stop wallowing in them! This thing has happened and you can never be able to go back in time to alter it. You only have today as a new page of your life.

It may not be easy; but, easy or not, today is a new day, and you don't need anyone's opinion before you believe that you truly deserve to be loved. Some of us have made very terrible mistakes in life; but, I believe that if I or some other people were to be in your shoes, experiencing your situations and conditions, we might just have done the very same thing you hold yourself guilty of. It is hurting that you had to be that person, but it is not a lifetime title. Our blames and shames are not lifetime titles, they are our life experiences. We are to learn from them, and not build on them.

So, don't build a house for yourself in your shame or blame, and tell yourself you don't deserve something good! Don't sit on your mistakes as if they were thrones meant to be sat upon for a lifetime!
    Yes, I agree that it could take a strong person to walk out of self-hating experiences and live on enjoying so much self-love, but I believe that if you don't have the strength to rise, one thing you need do is kindle the life in your soul. You have strength, and you can get better.
     Sometimes, our simple decisions and rigid wills are all the strength we can have, and they are good enough to help us rise.

Conversely, some of the things that sometimes cause us to hate ourselves are realities that we live with. So, I am wounded, and I have to live the life of a wounded man? That is only a part of me. I could be wounded, and married to a lovely person, have friends that cannot afford to be without me, have awesome skills, have a baby and so forth. All of these good things are blessings that many pray to have, but life is truly a variety. So I'm wounded, but I'm a father, a husband, an artist, a friend, a singer... I'm not just wounded.
     These things may appear trivial, but I believe that if I should lack any of them, I could feel even worse about myself. We really have to cherish ourselves for who we are, and I mean all the positive and beautiful things in our lives.

That you were a victim yesterday, does not mean you cannot be a victor today. That I hated myself yesterday, does not mean that I cannot love again. That we were unhappy in the past does not mean that we cannot choose to be happy against all odds today. I do agree that it could be easier said, but again, I remind all of us that it's 'possible', and 'possibility' is enough for us -it's probably even all that we can get. Thanks for reading, really.