How To Be A Good Companion: 002 Recommendation.

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‘The Withdrawal Syndrome,’ that’s what I call it. Are you familiar with how withdrawal in a relationship can be a defensive mechanism rather than an evidence of infidelity or dislike? Have you been in this kind of tight shoes? The popular assumption is that when one party/person in a relationship begins to strangely withdraw from their other companion in a very unusual way, then it could be a proof that they no longer like their companion as much as they used to, or that they are finding another person so interesting that they do not want to be seriously committed again to their companion(s). This is unfailingly possible. However, it is not always the case. Many a time, your companion can begin to withdraw especially because they love you too much, but they don’t feel that they are equally loved. It means that they are aware of the fragility of the human heart. Hence, when I love you too much, but I don’t believe that you love me that much, or I believe that you do not really want to be committed to me that much, or I assume that you do not take me as seriously as I do take you, then, to protect myself and shield myself from any possible disappointment and hurt, I would normally withdraw as a defensive mechanism. So, in the light of this, defensive mechanisms can be explained to be the steps we often take in order to protect ourselves from any possible hurt. At this point, it suggests that your companion is in doubt of your love and commitment level in the relationship. A very good reaction to this is that, since a withdrawal syndrome can be a proof that you a being truly loved, but your companion is in doubt that you can reciprocate this level of love, you should consider assuring them that they are loved, valued and important. It does not have to be planned. You could just wake up one morning and confess to your companion that, ‘I really value you; you are important to me; I love you right now!’

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  1. RolandWednesday, 13 February, 2019

    Wish she read this, wish i too did, perhaps we could still be together...

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    1. Sola SoyeleWednesday, 13 February, 2019

      You know Mr Roland, I'm really so glad to hear from you. I believe your others relationships will work out better. I owe you. I'll be glad. 🙏🙏🙏 I wish you only true and lasting love this year.💝

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  2. UnknownFriday, 22 February, 2019

    I believe we could voice out before withdrawal, though many of us are guilty of d withdrawal syndrome , I inclusive & it only points out to one thing which is lack of proper communication......#humble opinion#

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    1. Sola SoyeleFriday, 22 February, 2019

      Hum... You have made so much sense, truly. Maybe we should be humble and bold enough to express how we feel at those critical points when we'd rather choose to withdraw. We could be salvaging so much. Let's just be sure we're not capitalizing on wrong impressions. #It takes a bold and kind sort of love to speak out... 🙏🙏👍🤝 I'd like to hear from you again.

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