How To Be A Good Companion: 001 Recommendation.

Don’t always assume the role of a solution provider. If every time your companion has a challenge, you strive relentlessly to solve their problems completely or prescribe solutions, you would only be exhausting your good energy. Moreover, what your companion would forever appreciate you for is your attention and care. You can’t always solve their problems, but you can always make them know that they really are not alone on their toughest walk. The assurance that you would try your possible best to be present with them in the dark valleys of their emotional and life struggles would definitely make every problem half solved. In fact, the valley becomes quite less distressing and their burdens definitely will get lighter. For instance, I often have periods of serious unhappiness and anxiety. When I have such moments, most times, there’s no finite cause. So when I breakdown for an unexplainable or irrational reason, it never pays off well for anyone to try to solve the issues. It only leaves me empty, and exhausted. So, I wallow in tears, but out of a well-meaning intention, you try to talk me out of it, sadly it never really works. Now, when this happens, the goal is not to feel special, irritate you, or attract your attention because I actually experience mental pressure. As a matter of fact, sometimes, after this kind of breakdown, in a jiffy, I’m emotionally elevated with a confidence and esteem that reads up to 101%. Trying to proffer solutions and encourage a companion is never bad, however, do not make it your utmost or sole goal to solve their problems. For me, it can be a chain of negative thoughts, so much that after discussing one, another one is yet hunting me already. Coming out of these circumstances every now and then, I have realised that depression can magnify the most insignificant challenge, thereby affecting your daily life tremendously, so much that the uncertainty of tomorrow being a short day can destabilise a person significantly. A depressed person faces a serious challenge where problems are abnormally, overly magnified. Even when logic clearly solves the problem quite well, a depressed person has the tendency to capitalise on the slightest possibility of the negative in a way that their mind compels them to. Hence, even evidence may not suffice to convince such a person. Many a time what each of us wants to know is that you understand we are challenged, but you will love us still and if at all it gets bad, you’ll try your best to be here.

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